If you follow new mom Khloe Kardashian on Twitter, you've probably seen her call out "mommy shamers" over the last several days. Just like any mom who is getting flack for how one parents, she has had enough, and she is putting all shamers in their place.
Khloe has been brutalized on social media ever since news of her pregnancy broke. She was chastised for how she reacted when she found out she was having a girl (I can somewhat relate to this because I thought/hoped for a girl, but God blessed me with a beautiful baby boy. I love my son and am so glad I have a baby boy), she was chastised for working out while pregnant, staying with Tristan, posting too many pics of her beautiful daughter True, working out 6 weeks after delivering her daughter, going to an event and leaving her daughter with Tristan, and more.
She reached her boiling point and posted a series of tweets, some of which I am going to share:
"We are so hard on ourselves. Please be patient and gentle with your journey. Don’t compare yours to anyone else’s. You are right where you need to be! You are amazing!! You are worthy!!!."
"Completely over mommy/body shamers! Women who choose 2take their time after baby, I’m so proud of you! Women who choose to work out after baby, I’m so proud of you! We all must do what’s best for US! Please b kind 2urself! A happy mommy makes for a happy baby! Love your process."
"Mommy shamers r at a high right now. I’m sick, at a charity event & I’m getting slack 4being here bc I have a baby? Her dad is watching her while I’m trying 2bring awareness 2an amazing organization. But either way, what’s wrong w a new mom letting daddy take over 4a few hours?"
She also took time to answer fans' questions regarding her body. She told her followers and the world that body after baby is not the same (it's freaking true!). She mentioned how she has a different stomach than what she had before baby. I can relate to that. I have a different stomach too. Even more surprising, I actually have a booty! I had no butt before pregnancy (LOL!).
So why do I think she has a point about mommy shamers? Because, as a new mom, you don't want to be told 24/7 that everything you're doing is wrong: if you breastfeed in public, you're wrong. If you formula feed, you're wrong. If you leave your baby with the baby's father (sarcastic gasp), you're wrong. If you work out 6 wks pp, you're wrong. Everything you do is absolutely wrong and you're the worst mom ever. This is what mommy shamers instill in our heads. New moms have enough to deal with. I think experienced moms have forgotten what it is like to be a new mom. Even though us new moms have been warned about what our lives will be like once the baby is here, all of that goes out the window (especially if your baby is colicky).
When it comes to working out 6 weeks postpartum, what is the problem? If working out is what makes you happy, go for it. If you want to take some time and recover, go for it. We are all different in our abilities and our desires. How about instead of shaming new moms, you encourage them? What a concept!
To all the mommy shamers out there: You might want to check yourself. Try to remember what it was like for you. Try being encouraging instead of rude. Do you want your kids to think your behavior is appropriate? You are raising bullies because YOU are a bully.
New mommies out there: You are on the most important journey of your life. You don't have to have all the answers right now. Being a mom is 'on-the-job' training, and what works for one baby, doesn't always work with the other. Remember to breathe, and, like Khloe said in one of her posts (that I've made into a hashtag): Love Your Process. You can do this, and don't listen to naysayers. As long as you and your baby are healthy, that's all that matters.