The dating world is a battlefield. Humans are groomed by family and society to look for that one person who can sweep you off your feet. Often times, our friends and family members will ask us about our love lives, and if we are seeing anyone special. If we're not, we groan in response, and roll our eyes at the meddling friend and/or family member.
Many of you may have that friend who will come up to us and tell us that they know someone who would be perfect for us. Our friend asks us to list off what we are looking for in a partner. Our friend goes to our potential partner and asks them what they are looking for. Both parties list the qualities that they are looking for in a partner. Then, the subject of physical appearance is brought up.
When women first begin talking to a guy online, one of the first questions the guy will ask is what the woman looks like. Women may be nervous to answer, so they answer the guy's question with: "What do you look for in a woman?" Guys begin listing their likes and dislikes. They like a woman's eyes, smile, lips, tits, ass, no fupa, etc. In terms of size, you may find quite a number of men whose ideal woman is fit. Some men are adamant about dating a woman who is a specific body type. You may come across men who like their women to have curves.
This does go both ways. When men talk to women online, women want to get an idea of who they are talking to. Some women like a man to be muscular. Some women like to be with men who aren't muscular. With women, we tend to pay more attention to personality than body type (I've dated muscular, skinny, average, tall, short, and overweight people. Douchebags come in all shapes and sizes).
To answer the question of size, and what men and women want, there isn't a right or wrong question. Women tend to factor in a personality before factoring in a man's body type. In terms of men, men are different, and to think that all men want a Victoria's Secret model is rather silly. Some men do fancy the Victoria's Secret models, and that's fine. However, there are men out there that like a little Beyoncé, Scarlett Johansson, Mia Tyler, Tess Holiday, Lizzo, etc.
The physical attributes of a woman spike a man's interest. A personality is what hooks them.
So, if you're out there in the dating world, just be yourself. Be proud of who you are. You may have to deal with a lot of frogs before you find that prince (or princess). If finding 'the one' is your jam, don't give up.
In the meantime, fall in love with yourself. Fall in love with your teeth, your stomach, your breasts, your hair, your fupa (ladies, if you have one, don't be ashamed of it. The right partner will salivate at it), your unibrow, your extra bits, your crooked toe, etc. Fall in love with ALL. OF. IT! Once you love and accept yourself, the right caliber of people will be insanely attracted to you.
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