Jealousy is defined as being an emotion of resentment and insecurity. It is an overwhelming fear of possibly losing something very important to a person.
When it comes to romance, jealously is an emotion that has the capability to destroy a relationship. Even though jealousy has the potential to destroy a relationship, can even a little bit of jealousy be healthy?
Why do humans feel jealous in the first place? The overwhelming feeling of jealousy could stem from a childhood trauma. For example: a parent could show favoritism for a sibling, and not the other child. A child may have started feeling jealous when their friends began hanging out with the new kid more, and not them. The origin of jealousy could also stem from a lack of self-esteem. The person could feel inadequate, thinking that their lover would be better off without them. They may think that the waitress serving them is more attractive than they are, which is why their lover was looking at her.
This could make the jealous person lash out at their lover. The feelings of jealousy could drive the jealous person to become a detective: following their lover and accusing their lover of cheating. The jealous person could hack into their lover’s social media profiles, messaging every person on their lover’s friends list. The jealous person could even violently go after the person they suspect their lover of cheating with. This type of jealousy is a relationship destroyer.
However, a tiny bit of jealousy could actually ignite a spark in the relationship. The jealous person could utilize their jealousy by stepping up to the plate and showing their lover how much they mean to them. The emotion of jealousy could make the jealous person want to be a better partner and lover. This could show their lover that their partner would do anything for them. It shows the lover that their partner is grateful to have their lover in their life.
A little bit of jealousy in a relationship is very healthy, if it makes a person a better partner and lover.
There is one rule I live by when it comes to relationships: Never stop courting your boyfriend/fiancé/husband or girlfriend/fiancée/wife, even after you have them.
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