As I peruse the comments section of every social media site, I am noticing countless hopeless romantics fervently manifesting their twin flame into union with them. When you approach them and tell them that union may never happen, they flip their shit on you. What are you supposed to do, allow a human being to drown in their desperation for union?
We could, because we all have shit going on in our lives. We have our own journeys to focus on. If we did that, it would defeat the purpose of all of us collectively raising the vibration of this planet. We have to be honest with people who are just starting their twin flame journey. There are others who are sympathizers of the journey and want to have their own twin flame journey. Look, you can WANT to be on this journey, but if you don't have a twin flame, you are not on the journey with us. Twin flames are extremely rare. Not everyone has one. Everyone has a soulmate, and those are very strong connections. A twin flame is the ultimate connection, created by God and the universe. Your twin flame is your divine counterpart. 

I digress. We all want to achieve union with our twin flame. One of the most sobering lessons on this journey is understanding and making peace with the fact that it may not happen. This can be for a number of reasons, including you not putting in all the work to ascend to a higher version of yourself, or it could be your twin who isn't putting in the work. Inner union is the work that we need to be focused on. 

Inner Work:
The most important aspect of the twin flame journey is the inner union. Yes, there is someone out there who has a part of our soul, but we are still whole on our own. We all have divine masculine and divine feminine within us. We need to have both sides within us come together in union. The journey to our 5D selves is what we need to work on. We need to heal our traumas. From what I understand, I know that many twin flames come from not-so-good beginnings, where there are mother wounds and father wounds. Our twins mirror those wounds, not to hurt us. It's to help us get started on our journey so we can heal on our own. You also need to work on loving yourself.
I have mother wounds, and a father wound. My twin triggered these wounds, and it caused me to start my journey. I got sick and tired of being weighed down by shit that happened to me when I was younger. While I credit my twin for holding a mirror up to my wounds, I will not credit them for my journey. This is my journey. I will be grateful for my twin, holding that mirror up. I know I will achieve union within myself. That is a given. When I had to think about the possibility that I may never see my twin again, it was painful. Thinking about the fact that I may never see the person I love most in this world, besides my child, is hard. I decided that whenever I would get sad, I would redirect myself and remember my mission. I am on a healing journey to oneness with myself. I am ending cycles, ending generational curses, and becoming who I am meant to become. I want this journey to self-oneness more than I want union with my twin flame. Facts! Don't get me wrong, if I end up being one of the twins who achieves union with my twin, I will be excited and forever grateful. 

Like I said, union may never happen. If you're reading this, I have a few final thoughts for you:

1. Please do not listen to the tarot card readers online who are feeding your delulus. When they don't show your cards, have shifty eyes, or they talk about how much their readings cost, they are scammers. This is probably 98% of all readers online. 
2. If they are all excited because their cards show that you will have union, don't believe them. They are feeding your delulus. I have seen so many readers who will say, "type 1111 to claim, etc," and "I can't make this up." The typing of whatever in the comments is to boost them on the site so they make more money. They don't give a shit about you or your journey. They just want money. When they say, "I can't make this up," they are INDEED making this up. They want you hyped and energized. They want you to get all excited so that you book a reading with them. I've priced a lot of these tarot readers and psychics. They are outrageously overpriced. 

Please please please do not get yourself scammed out of your mental health and hard-earned money. I know you are desperate to find out if you will achieve union with your person. No psychic can tell you that. It is up to you and your journey, and your twin's journey. If they aren't putting in the true work (and you are), you WILL NOT achieve union. If you are not putting in the true work, and they are, you WILL NOT achieve union. If you BOTH put in the true work, you have a good chance of entering union in the 3D. It is up to you and your twin. Those garbage psychics and tarot readers cannot tell you anything about your future with your twin. You and your twin hold the key. 
You need to come to terms with the fact that you will not achieve union in the 3D. That doesn't mean that you won't be forever connected. You will always be connected to your twin. You will always love your twin, and they will always love you. 

Put in the work for yourself. You are your own divine counterpart. You owe it to yourself to put in the work. The work is hard, but it is worth it in the end. Nothing beats achieving inner peace and ultimate self-love. Your self-love, and the love you will have for others around you, will raise the frequency of this planet. 

Twin flame is a term that has become widely used in pop culture. Many think that they have a twin flame, due to the intense chemistry they may have with the other person. However, the twin flame journey is much more and much deeper than that. So, what is a twin flame?
According to MindBodyGreen, a twin flame is defined as being: A twin flame is an intense soul connection with someone thought to be a person's other half, sometimes called a "mirror soul." It's based on the idea that sometimes one soul gets split into two bodies. 
Twin flames heal one another. They show you what needs to be healed. The journey is less about a romantic "happily ever after," and more about finding love and healing within yourself. It's about raising your vibration higher so that you can make a difference on this planet. Twins are on this planet to raise the vibration of the planet with spiritual love and healing. 

Meeting your Twin Flame
Gurrrrlll, when you meet your twin flame, there are hella sparks! It's a wildfire! Hotter than the sun! There is a familiarity with them. You feel like your absolute self with them. The romance is intense, the intimacy is hot, and love is instant. Here's the thing, though. They will hold a spiritual mirror up to you and show you the parts of you that aren't healed. They are your soul. They know! So, if you go into something with your twin, and they decide that they aren't ready, or if they are turning to alcohol to deal with the intense connection, they haven't ascended yet.

If this triggers you, then the separation is the perfect time to do some shadow work and heal the parts of you that have addiction and abandonment trauma. You may go through various cycles with them through the years and have separation after separation. In order to see if twin flame union is meant for you in this lifetime, you need to do the work on yourself FOR YOURSELF. A union with your twin flame isn't guaranteed, and it's not even the point of the journey. It's YOUR journey. 
What you need to know is, if your spirit guides see that you are putting in the work, and your twin is not putting in the work, they will send someone else to be your mate. Twins have lifetimes together, and you will keep meeting your twin flame until you achieve union. 

My twin flame journey
I met my twin in 2022 on a dating app. I knew in an instant that this was my person. I didn't know about twin flames at this time, but when I researched how I felt about them, the search came up with "twin flames." I asked a friend of mine who reads tarot (by the way, she is so accurate about everything. Look up Brand Shamans. I've known this woman since 2010. She's super nice) if this person was my twin, and she said 'yes.' 
My twin and I met in person at a park on the coast, and it felt so amazing! My twin kissed me and it was the greatest first kiss of my life, and I knew then I wanted it to be my last first kiss. I started to fall hard for my twin with how they made me laugh. I've never laughed like that before, and I haven't since. I felt alive around my twin. I felt like I was floating and glowing. Kissing my twin felt like two stars being forced together, creating a beautiful white light that enveloped us. It was a spiritual and magical experience. I was happy, I found my person. Unfortunately, things fell apart a few weeks after that. An addiction my twin had resurfaced, and it was a trigger for me because my mom is an addict. My twin blamed me for the relapse. It got ugly! I stopped talking to my twin for months, and I dated someone else for a few months. 

My twin resurfaced the following summer, and they expressed remorse for how they treated me. We made plans to hang out on July 4th, and I was ghosted. I was hurt, and I felt abandonment trauma creep in (I had abandonment trauma due to an abusive and neglectful childhood). I went into my old patterns and began dating someone else a few weeks later. I stayed in this karmic relationship for almost 2 years. My karmic and I were on and off during those two years, and we were engaged for a period of time. 
During one of the off times with my karmic, I was back in contact with my twin. My twin and I made plans in December to hang out, and I drove to see them. We were intimate, and then 5 minutes later, they rejected me. I was still naked when they rejected me. They said we weren't meant to be and I wasn't the one for them (funny thing is, they were all over me, kissing me, and singing me love songs 2 hours beforehand). The feeling I had at that moment was one of the worst feelings I ever had. It made me feel pain I haven't felt since childhood. I blacked out. I grabbed my clothes, feeling so ashamed, and I ran out of there while getting dressed. I cried the entire ride home. We talked a few days afterward, and my twin informed me that they didn't mean it, and that they were taking sips of alcohol in order to feel comfortable around me. It wasn't long after when I blocked my twin. A few weeks later, I got back together with my karmic, and we stayed together until the beginning of March of this year. I ended it permanently. 

Since ending things with the karmic, and distancing myself from my twin, I have embarked on a huge wellness and spiritual journey. I had other triggers in my life that prompted me to want to change things (my uncle committed suicide, gunshot to the head, on April 5 (his 10 year old son found his body), I was laid off from my job, and I just felt myself emotionally crumbling. My uncle's suicide was triggering because I used to be suicidal, and the aftermath of his suicide ripped my stepmother's family apart. My stepmother's mom blamed my uncle's wife in front of the children, and my stepmother's mother said that my stepmother deserved to be raped decades ago (this triggered me because I was raped when I was 15). With how abusive my childhood was, and I have diagnosed PTSD from it, I wanted badly to heal my wounds. I decided to go inward and begin healing for the first time ever.

Being a spiritual twin is something I am grateful for, and I know it's going to make my healing journey even more powerful and important. I started trauma therapy with an amazing therapist, and I am doing shadow work at home. I am connecting more to nature by doing grounding work. I started taking herbal supplements to help with my stress so I can see things from a clearer perspective. I also have tea times, when I relax with a cup of tea (as of this writing, I am drinking jasmine green tea). In terms of teas, I highly recommend blueberry sage tea, and honey lavender tea. 
My journey is mine, and I don't expect God and spirit guides to bless me with my twin. I need to be okay on my own, in the event that I don't enter into union with my twin. I will always love my twin, and I want my twin to achieve abundance and happiness in their life, even if means we are physically separated in this lifetime.

The twin flame journey is not about achieving physical union with your twin. You need to understand that the physical union MAY NOT HAPPEN. This journey is about healing and self-love. People really need to stop screaming on social media for their twin to come into their lives. The twin flame journey is about energy. You are energetically connected to your twin. If you are sending out that type of energy, your twin is going to run farther away from you. You need to go within and ask yourself why are you so thirsty for your twin to come into your life? Why is it so important to you? Why do you feel like you're not good enough for your own attention? POUR. INTO. YOUR. OWN. CUP! Love yourself first. Show devotion to yourself! Heal your inner traumas! Do it for you! When you raise your vibration and you start healing yourself, your twin will feel that. They could start working on themselves. Again, this doesn't mean you will enter physical union in this life. Physical union doesn't happen for every twin, because one twin may not be ready in this lifetime. You cannot force them. 

Will I achieve union with my twin?
It's not up to me. I'm grateful for the few beautiful moments that I had with my twin. They were the most amazing romantic moments of my life. I will look back at the good memories fondly. Not many people get to experience that feeling of being around your spiritual twin, a person that God made for you. I consider myself blessed and lucky for my experience.