If I had a nickel for every time someone on POF called me a "catfish" for not responding to them, I wouldn't have to hook on Main Street to support my habit. I'm just kidding, I don't hook on Main Street. The pandemic killed that dream for me.
Recently I posted about what guys should do (and shouldn't do) if they want to find love. I mentioned in the blog post that I was only on POF for blog post ideas. That angered a few people...sorry (not sorry).
Ever since the dawn of "Catfish," the term is thrown around almost as much as "like (when it's used as a filler word)." For those that are unsure about the definition of "catfish:"
"Catfish" refers to someone who lures another person into a relationship by means of a fake online persona. The term was coined by Nev Schulman, who was 'catfished' himself. He made a documentary about it, gained worldwide attention, and then created a TV show where he helps those come face-to-face with their catfish.
In MY situation, I'm not a "catfish." I used my real pictures, real name, and my real occupation. I didn't start relationships with anyone who messaged me. The people I did talk to wanted to meet me right away, and I wasn't comfortable with it. I told them it was too soon, and they stopped talking to me.
The fact that I'm only on POF for blog post ideas does not make me a "catfish." There are people on that site who are keeping tabs on their kid's deadbeat parent, a cheating spouse, a friend's sketchy boyfriend/girlfriend, and more. Are they "catfish?" No, as long as they are upfront about their reasons for being on that site.
If I wanted to "catfish" lonely people, I'd have pictures of a much hotter female (someone who had blonde hair, and was a size 2 or smaller). I would say that I was a doctor or stripper, something cool like that. I didn't do that.
The real me has blonde/brown bayalage hair, and I'm a size 6. I'm a content writer, and a single mom. I take care of my own, and I refuse to depend on a man or woman for anything materialistic. I can get it myself.
No "catfishing" going on here. I'm just browsing. Move along!
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