As youngsters, females are taught two polar opposites: be a strong/independent woman, AND be submissive to men.
In some families, girls are only brought up to be strong and independent. In other families, girls are taught to be completely dependent on a man (this is very popular in conservative, religious families).
In these same families, males are taught to just be men, and to be the "king of the castle." This causes men a lot of trouble as they get older, because they begin to encounter women who aren't submissive. They are left shocked when they meet a woman who doesn't bow down at their feet. When these strong women talk, men accuse them of being bitter. They go straight to the name-calling because they are intimidated. The looks men get when you challenge them are hilarious. They get this 'deer in headlights' look and they suddenly forget how to formulate words or thoughts, unless it's to call us "psycho," "bitch," or "bitter."
You might be wondering where I'm going with this. This weekend, I had the privilege of going toe-to-toe with a misogynist on Facebook. I made a point on a Facebook page that romantic love should not be the goal of life. I said that self-love and inner peace are the goal in life. While I received praise for my logic, I also encountered a lot of salty men. I was called bitter by several of them. Apparently, not having a Disney/Hallmark mentality about romantic love makes me a mutant. Who knew?!
Anyway, this one guy said my comment was "rubbish." I asked him why he thought my comment was rubbish. He said it just was rubbish and it's his opinion. I became a little annoyed that he wouldn't explain himself, so I told him no one asked for his "opinion." Then, he got nasty. He told me to shut my mouth.
I told him: "You better shut your mouth and realize who the fuck you're talking to." I was called a terrible woman and a few other names. I wish I had saved the convo. The whole thing went left so quickly and for no reason.
To recap, when you're a strong woman who doesn't submit to a man (and you don't believe romantic love is the goal of life), you are a bitter and terrible woman who speaks rubbish. Idk about you ladies, I'd rather be a bitter, terrible woman, full of self-love and peace, than to be some man's bitch/whore.
Do I have anything against romantic love? No way! Don't get it twisted, I believe in love. My heart is only open to the right person. My soul will know who that person is when I meet them. Otherwise, my heart is guarded. I'm using my solo time to work on me, and to enjoy being a mom to my son. I 100% believe that self-love and inner peace are the goals of life. Romantic love and all of that is just extra.
Ladies, be strong. Share your opinion and don't be scared of someone just because they have a penis. Males don't have any power, unless you give them power. WE have the power. Don't give it away. People may wonder if a broken heart is the result of your strong personality. Let them wonder. It's none of their business.
Also, if a dude wants to battle, fire back at all cylinders! Shout louder and stand your ground!