Heartbreak is considered to be one of the biggest pains in the world. It encompasses you, makes you feel like you're being tortured from the inside out. The emotional pains becomes physical, and there is no escape.
You'd rather chew glass than give someone your heart and soul again. You tell people that you will never date, fall in love, and get married again. They tell you that "everything takes time," and that "you will find love again." "It happens when you least expect it."
When you're in the midst of agony, that's the very LAST thing you want to hear.
At this point, we can either sink further into misery, or we can completely throw ourselves into work/life/etc.
Singer Kelly Clarkson has been candid about her divorce from Brandon Blackstock. The world was taken by surprise when she filed for divorce last summer. A lot was speculated, and while Clarkson hasn't gone into extreme details, she has talked about her feelings, and lessons she has learned from life.
Clarkson recently spoke to Gwyneth Paltrow on her self-titled talk show, and Kelly told Gwyneth that she cannot imagine ever getting married again. Gwyneth has pretty much been there, and told Kelly that she was able to find love, space, and the vulnerability to say yes to doing it all again. Paltrow added that it was the hardest thing she's ever done, learning lessons from her divorce. She told Kelly "you will have it again. It just takes time."
Kelly Clarkson told Gwyneth Paltrow that she is simply not searching for anyone else. She's in the mind space where she is pretty much dating herself (love this! We all should be dating ourselves. I am, and it's the best relationship I've ever had!).
Clarkson has really been doing a fantastic job keeping busy and immersing herself in creativity. She has been entertaining us with her talk show. She has been a judge on "The Voice." She is working on a new album, and since filing for divorce, she has written over 60 songs! Not to mention, she has two beautiful kids under the age of 7.
(can I freaking have whatever Kelly Clarkson drinks/eats for energy? I want that energy! LOL!)
Kelly Clarkson is the perfect example of a woman who is keeping busy, but also finding herself, while going through the heartbreak.
Having a short amount of time to be sad and cry the pain out is fine, but you can't stay there. You have to pick yourself up off the ground, dust yourself off, and rediscover who you are. It's not easy. It can get ugly, especially when you face your demons. The only way to face your inner demons is to look at them square in the eye, and say: "I'm not afraid of you anymore. You have no power here."
The more you work on yourself during heartbreak, the stronger you become. Take it day by day, and don't let anyone peer pressure you into going out on dates. Let them know that you aren't in the space to find a new person. If they don't understand that, then they aren't your true friends. You might want to find better quality friends.
Just because it is foggy right now, doesn't mean the sun won't ever come out and shine on you. Work on you. During your journey, you might find yourself thinking about the possibilities of romantic love again. It's a journey, and you can go as slow as you want. The most important thing to focus on right now is building yourself up so you can love yourself again. That's the most important step of all.
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