"Bless me Father, for I have sinned. I have been single for over 3 and a half years."
Goddamn, since when is it a sin to be single? Is there a flood coming that I don't know about? Should I be looking for a mate to repopulate the post-apocalyptic world with? Should I go back on Tinder, or should I call my ex?
What's the fucking problem with being single?
Being single, regardless of age, is not a sin (let me say it louder for the people in the back calling me an Old Maid: "BEING SINGLE, REGARDLESS OF AGE, IS NOT A SIN"). Despite the fact that life is everchanging, society thinks it's taboo for a woman over the age of 30 to be single. It gets worse the older you get. The push to couple-up happens in our mid-to-late 20s, and into our 30s. We are bombarded by family members who wonder why we are so single. They tell us that we need to "loosen up and find someone before we are too old to find a mate (there is no age limit on finding a mate. It happens when it's meant to happen)." You could be single for 40 years, and then find the greatest, most fantastic love of your dreams.
The "old maid" stigma is archaic and insulting. Society's blueprint on how things happen needs to be thrown out. Putting pressure on women to find a husband will ensure that a woman couples up with a guy that isn't right for her. Now she will be chained to him for the rest of her life, and she will live the rest of her life growing in despair. She will wish that she chose differently. God forbid if kids become involved. They will immediately pick up on the tension (let's face it, kids are sharper and smarter than we are).
This will be your life if you live your life by society's blueprint.
We deserve better than this dumbass blueprint. We deserve the greatest love of all, and that begins with loving yourself. Being single is not a sin. Lowering yourself to marry when you're not ready is a sin.
Don't be pressured to live up to society's expectations. Live up to your own.
It is not a sin to be single. Trust the process, and fuck society's blueprint.