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You know what really grinds my gears? People who think that casual dating is the same thing as being single. No. They are different. Being single means you are working on YOU without any distractions. Casual dating means you are on those dating sites, chatting someone up, and meeting up for a good old fashioned 'Netflix and chill' sesh.
For years, I had the two mixed up. I would tell people I was single, even though I was casually talking to someone.
Here are the definitions of single and casual dating (courtesy of Urban Dictionary):
Single: "For a friendly, considerate, and well-meaning person this can be a great period where one learns a lot about him/herself and life in general."
Casual dating: "When a man/woman goes out with another individual or many different people to configure compatibility."
See the difference? Please don't call yourself single if you are casually dating around. Just say you are dating around.
I do recommend that, if you find yourself in the realm of singledom, that you embrace it. Work on you, fall in love with yourself. Focus on your family and friends. Kick ass at work. Get your ish in order before moving into the casual dating realm.
So where does 'Yours Truly' fall? I am 100% completely single, and for the first time ever, I am loving it. I am learning so much about myself, and I'm becoming stronger. Insecurities that I once had, I don't have anymore. I'm appreciating my struggles, my journey, the scars on my body, the scars on my soul. Everything has brought me to this point. I'm working on me, with romantic relationships NOT being my endgame. My endgame is inner peace, and unwavering self-love.
If romance happens, great. If not, great. Again, romance is not as important to me as my own happiness is.