Busy Philipps shares that her 12 year old, Birdie, 'came out' to her, and prefers 'they/them' pronouns.
During a recent episode on her podcast, actress Busy Philipps shared that her 12 year old had recently 'come out' to her. In addition, Birdie told their mother that their pronouns are 'they/them.' The conversation between Birdie and their mother happened after the family watched "Soul." Birdie had gone to their room and was listening to Harry Styles' "Fine Line," while laying on the floor. Busy Philipps went in to check on Birdie, and the two talked.
Philipps admits to struggling with Birdie's pronouns:
"I said, you know Bird, I've been doing a bad job with the pronouns because Birdie said that they would like their pronouns to be they/them and I haven't been doing it because I have this public persona and I want Birdie to be in control of their own narrative."
Busy did give her child some amazing words to live by:
"I said to [them], 'The other thing I want to tell you that I wish I had known was you get to build your life however the f**k you want to and it doesn't have to look like anything you've ever seen or anything that's ever been modeled for you because maybe it doesn't exist. This is a different world that you get to f**king build."
Birdie did give their mom permission to discuss their orientation and preferred pronouns.
Busy Philipps' struggle is not uncommon. Even the most liberal of minds will stumble at times. Humans, by nature, have trouble adjusting to any type of change in life (case in point, 2020). When it comes to our children, parents naturally go to a place of fear; fear that our kids will be relentlessly bullied for being their authentic self.
It's all about educating ourselves on what our child is going through, and asking them questions.
I am so emotional right now, because I am so proud of Birdie. Birdie is wise beyond their years, and that is because they have amazing parents.
Busy Philipps, you are doing a fantastic job!
To the Karens that are about to shade the fuck out of me, I'm sorry that my compassion and tolerance scares the shit out of you. Then again, no I'm not.