How many of you have friends that constantly air their dirty laundry? You probably have at least one person that uses their social media like it's their diary.
They just put it all out there:
"Dear diary, I took a massive shit while thinking about my ex."
"Dear diary, my best friend is a total slut and I hate her fucking guts."
"Dear diary, I hate Khloe Kardashian, but I want the same nose job she has."
"Dear diary, why aren't my friends on Facebook reacting to my posts? I need to be in the spotlight! They all suck."
We are all guilty of oversharing our dirty laundry.
Back in the day, I overshared my personal life so much, people stopped talking to me. They would unfriend me, block me, and never speak to me again. These were all people that knew me in real life!
Here are some classics that Facebook memories loves to share with me:
"Interesting to know that people who were dicks in grade school are still dicks as adults. Karma bitch!"
"Kinda want to order a bunch of cookies for myself for Valentine’s Day. Kinda don’t want to gain weight from eating all of them.
Being crazy is hard 😂 🍪"
"Leaving the door open for anyone else who wants to bounce from my life. I'm going through too much crap right now and I can't deal with negativity.
"Fuck Valentine's Day...be prepared to see this same status next week...you'd be bitter too if you are spending another Valentine's Day single.."
"I may have to play Wii Bowling in my underwear from now on!"
"is not feeling well at all. Getting ready for work anyways. Damn Celiac flare up."
"is feeling so frickin hollow inside...but I gotta pull myself together and get to work. I don't understand why this shit keeps happening to me.."
"Yeah I need to find a cuddle buddy lolz 😂"
These aren't even my worst offenses. After one birthday, I screamed at all the people who did not wish me a happy birthday. I threatened a mass deletion from my friends list. I was a total cunt to everyone.
Through the years, I overshared the most after bad relationships ended, when I was diagnosed with Celiac disease and a few other autoimmune diseases, when I injured my back, and when I had shitty work days. During my early days on Facebook, I was dealing with a string of bad dating experiences. I would cry like a psycho over these guys, call myself fugly, and tell people I will end up alone. Seeing these posts come up in Facebook memories makes me want to go back in time and smack myself across the face, with a cinderblock.
Every time we react to something, whether it's cursing someone out, or airing our dirty laundry on social media, we give away a piece of us. We give away our power. We are pretty much whoring out our soul. We are also giving people receipts to hurt us when they see fit. Bel-lieve- me, I am a control freak, I always have to have the final say in everything. I need to walk away from situations, knowing that I stung the fuck out of the person who attacked me. I had to change this about myself because it was weakening me. It's like when you drink alcohol to numb emotional and physical pain. Sure, it works for an hour or two, but the problem is still waiting for you when the numbness wears off.
The only way to avoid all of that (and save money on booze), is to stop airing dirty laundry, gain some perspective on life, and never be in a position where you freely give away your power.
Here are a few suggestions in which you can use your power for something good:
Kick it old school and write your gripes in a notebook. I still do it. It actually prevents me from sharing personal stuff online. I also use it to release anger that I may have about someone or something. It's pretty therapeutic.
I have been enamored with art for most of my life. I even minored in art in college. My favorite medium is charcoal, and I plan on creating designs that I will be selling.
During the warmer months, I love to grow my own food and herbs. There's something incredibly therapeutic about the process of gardening (plus it's a decent calorie burn).
Getting a little exercise definitely helps release the stress.
Volunteer/Get involved in activism.
One of the things that helped me gain some perspective was expanding my knowledge about the world and various struggles. I learned about how a lot of countries have been damaged by the virus. Families have been separated, kids are being sold into sex trafficking rings, and little girls are being sold to middle-aged men as child brides. These little girls are raped and killed by their captives. While this has been happening for centuries, it has gotten worse with the pandemic. It is brutal out there, and it doesn't make sense to complain about white girl privilege. I have been involved in a ton of activism since my eyes have been opened. The world needs change, and knowing what's going on out there has helped me be less selfish. I am taking the power that I used during my selfish times, and pouring it into helping the world be a better place. Find a cause, find many causes, and help make the world a better place.
These are just some of the ways in which we can use our energies for good. I know I didn't mention family and close friends in my suggestions, but these are a given. Family should always be #1. Whether it's the family you were born into, or the one you chose for yourself, always choose them (the ones that aren't toxic anyway).
I talk more in depth about this topic on my Podcast, which you can listen to here (Look for Sassy and Unfiltered: Airing Dirty Laundry and Giving Away Your Power). Take a drink every time I say "you know."
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