Humans, by nature, are not big fans of change. When things change, a few things happen: we bitch, we moan, and we carry on like petulant children. On the flip side of that, we hate when our lives don't get better. Humans have some serious problems!
Now, if you decide to make changes that will alter your life in a positive way, not everyone is on board. How friggin insane is that?!
You decide to lose weight, people will gripe that you're "losing too much weight" and you "looked better before." People will complain if you tell them you're going to therapy, or a 12 step program. People will respond with "you're not crazy, you don't need a shrink," or "you don't have a drinking/drug problem. It's the covid era. Life is easier when intoxicated."
You just can't win. What you CAN do is make healthy choices for you, and fuck what everyone else thinks.
I recently went through a process of change. I had my heart broken, and I was betrayed by several friends. I gained weight, and I was just plain miserable. No one knew. After all the drama went down, I was physically, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally drained. I spent 48 hours in a daze, and the rest of that week trying to regroup. The following week, I worked on my physical strength (working out and eating right), and my emotional/mental/spiritual strength. I was finding a strength that I never knew I had, and for the first time ever, my self-esteem was increasing. I began to find myself and I began to love myself.
Not everyone has liked the changes I have been going through. I've had friends who have questioned my sanity. No one is used to me having self-esteem. My role has always been one where I've been the outcast, misunderstood, and broken friend. Always single, never going from one guy to the next. I've also been known as the DUFF (designated ugly fat friend). I accepted that role for the longest time...until now.
For the first time ever, I'm standing on top of the world, and breathing in happiness, peace, love, and strength.
People can talk all they want about me making changes in my life, but I'm doing what's right for me, and what's right for my family. When I'm happy and at peace, my son is happy and at peace. His well-being means as much to me as my own well-being.
Don't ever apologize for making yourself a priority. Don't apologize for your 'glow up.' This is your time to friggin shine. The right people will be along for the ride.
Don't give up on you and your happiness. You will regret it if you do. Get you some of YOU!