We all want to have a long lasting, healthy relationship. We want a relationship that will span the rest of our lives. We want an equal partnership with our beloved.
Unfortunately, as one embarks on a relationship with someone new, this person could become co-dependent on their partner. They could become clingy and be desperate to spend all of their time with the one they love.
A co-dependent relationship is defined as one person clinging onto their partner, desperate for their approval. They look for approval from their partner in order to feel self-fulfilled. Those who are co-dependent look to their partner in order to boost their self-worth. Their identity is wrapped up in their partner.
This can be quite unhealthy. It can increase the co-dependent's neediness. It can also make their partner miserable.
How can one tell if they are in a co-dependent relationship?
Is your life unsatisfying outside of your relationship? Are you constantly breaking plans with your friends because you do not want to leave your partner's side?
Are you giving so much support and attention to your partner, that it costs you your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health?
If any of those ring true to you, you may be in a co-dependent relationship.
How can one change their co-dependence on their partner?
While many individuals may be told to break up with their partner, this may not be your best solution to the problem. Setting goals in your relationship, that satisfies you and your partner, can be the first step in rectifying the issue at hand.
Also, making time for friends and family can help one to break out of a co-dependence on their partner. Try to find activities and hobbies that you can do on your own or with friends.
Giving your partner some breathing room can do wonders for your relationship. While you have a relationship, you also have your own life. Remind yourself that "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."
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